It is from the lost self that results from the core wound of abandonment that people with Borderline Personality Disorder experience both the shame of abandonment and the Emotion Dysregulation that often negatively impact their attempts to relate to others.
If you have Borderline Personality Disorder there is a question that you need to learn to live in order to find its answer – an answer that can be realized in the process of recovery and a question that must be lived in order for you to find the road to recovery.
Most people who have Borderline Personality Disorder struggle in one way or another with rage – a rage addiction that for the quiet borderline is often turned inward and experienced by others via the quiet borderline’s withdrawal, avoidance of conflict, and refusing to communicate – often punishment via the aloof and cold silent treatment. The raging borderline with a relational style of acting out expresses his or her rage in more aggressive and obvious punishing ways.
If you love or care about someone with BPD and you are trying to understand more about what drives the way that borderlines relate and often act you will benefit from understanding more about the lost self and how it is at the core of so much of the reasons and ways that you experience Borderline Personality Disorder
Click on the link below and scroll down to the episode entitled The Lost Self in BPD
© A.J. Mahari, January 9, 2009 – Article & Podcast – All rights reserved.