At times it is hard to be nice; divorce can be one of those times. To make things easier on yourself and all of those you come in contact with you need to be able to work to make this divorce proceed as easily as possible.
Keep in mind that this is a part of your life and you have to work to make it turn out how you would like. It is important to work towards keeping peace between you and your soon to be ex spouse as well as the rest of the family.
It is not recommended to call names either. When you resort to name calling you are lowering yourself to a very childish standard. Your divorce has taken away enough from your life; don’t let it take your dignity as well. Remain calm and collected so that you can work through this difficult time and make it as painless as possible for you as well as others involved.
There is no reason to ever try to start trouble with your ex. You should always remain civil towards one another. Keep your inner strength and do not bow to temptations to fight with your ex. You need to keep a cool, level head and remember that your divorce will go smoother if you can discuss things with your ex spouse in a calm manner.
Getting your point across without shouting or getting upset as well as not making your ex partner mad is another important goal. There is no reason to try to make things difficult on one another, especially if you have children. If you are parents you will have to be in one another’s life forever, you shouldn’t start off on a bad foot.
When children are involved in a divorce things get complicated, emotions run high, and you need to be extra careful to be nice. You don’t want to say anything bad about your ex in front of your children as they may take it as a personal attack on them since they are your ex’s flesh and blood. Your responsibility to protect your children from emotional harm supersedes your wish to damage your ex spouse’s character. Keep the kids out of the fight and shield them from the details as much as possible, especially if the details of the split are going to be painful for them.
You and your ex need to have open communication as much as possible when it comes to the details of your divorce. If you discuss everything instead of fighting and making your lawyers try to figure out what is going on you will have a much easier time of the divorce than you will if you fight with each other constantly. Include your lawyers in your discussions and remain fair while making sure both of you get what is rightfully deserved.
Your divorce isn’t about getting revenge or being bitter over the past. Your divorce is putting a chapter of your life to a close, one that didn’t turn out as you had hoped it would when you started is. You need to be getting on with the next chapter of your life and making a new start. Keeping peace throughout the divorce will help it to go by quickly and as painless as it possibly can.