“The death of a child is one of the most painful events that an adult can experience and is linked to complicated/traumatic grief reactions,” writes Catherine H. Rogers and others.
If your child has died, the grief you have experienced is incredibly painful and not something any person should have to endure. What becomes obvious, however, is the need to fight this pain. You eventually need to live your life and do not want to focus your entire life on something so tragic. One of your goals might be to move your life forward and remember your child fondly.
Here are four ways that can help you cope with the tragedy:
1.) Talk with someone. Talking with others might seem incredibly simple and underrated, but it might be one of the most effective things you can do. Asking a friend or family member to sit with you so you can speak with them can provide some relief and provide sympathy, empathy, and understanding from someone else in your life. A feeling of connection with another human might help you deal with the grief and pain in your life.
2.) Consult a therapist. A mental health professional may be another good choice for you. For many people, it is not an easy thing to speak with someone you do not know. However, if you have the chance to do so, you may find it beneficial to speak with a person whose professional purpose is to help others explore their emotions. If you have had stress in the past, going back to a previous therapist could help you with your grief.
3.) Allow yourself to grieve. You might feel embarrassed or ashamed to show your true emotions. You may want to hide them from those you care about and the general public. But hiding your emotions could be doing more harm than good. Let yourself feel your emotions. Do not stop yourself from going through the stages of grief. If you allow yourself to experience your emotions, it is possible you will understand them better and be able to find effective ways to cope with them.
4.) Take part in the community. Connecting with and helping others in the community might be a way you can honor your child’s memory. It may make you feel good to assist others who are going through traumatic situations just like yourself. Maybe you can use your newfound perspective to assist others facing the same issues. You may be able to channel your grief into different activities. That might be a good way to keep the memory of your child alive.
Dealing with the death of any loved one is never easy. It may be the toughest thing in your life, especially if the person is your child. However, keep in mind that even during the darkest days, positive things await.
About the author: Tommy Zimmer is a writer whose work has appeared online and in print. His work covers a variety of topics, including politics, economics, health and wellness, addiction and recovery, and the entertainment industry.