When it comes to our goals, we’re so focused on the end that we don’t celebrate how far we’ve come.
I remember when my plan to move to Austin was set in motion. I was so fixated on January 1st. It was all I could think about. any time I felt like I wouldn’t get to leave on the 1st, I’d beat myself up about it.
I wasn’t even giving myself credit for the little things I did each day to get me closer to my goal.
It’s the same for Depression. We’re only focused on the main goal, recovering.
What about the things we do each day despite the depression we face?
Here’s 5 signs that you’re beating depression:
1. You got out of bed today. Yeah, it’s true. We all know that on really terrible days it’s incredibly hard to do anything much less get out of bed. If you manage to do that, then you did something to help yourself today.
2. You took a shower. I have this saying. A shower makes me feel 20% better no matter what. It always worked for me. Even if I was at 10%, a shower would get me up to 30% in no time. It makes you feel good. Like you’re taking care of yourself. It makes you feel “normal.”
3. You used a coping skill. Deep breaths, Writing, Talking to a friend, crying, music, etc. If you did anything to help yourself cope in a positive way, then you’ve got to pat yourself on the back.
4. You learned from a meltdown. Whether it was learning more about how to cope, learning what is dangerous for you, learning to be compassionate to yourself. You learned, you grew, you survived.
5. You’re still alive. ‘Nuff said. I’m proud of you.
Do not undermine the amazing fact that you survived another day despite all of the terrible things your mind is telling you. Despite feeling like you’re completely alone and no one around you understands you, much less want to help. Despite the fact that you don’t feel like you have another choice. Despite the fact that you feel empty, or spent, or small. You know that that’s depression brain. You know you believe it until it lets go of you for a little while. You know that that isn’t who you are.
There is this preconceived notion that people with depression are weak.
False. We are as strong as they come. We’re moonshine.