PAID ADVERTISEMENT

Month: December 2010

The Crazymaking Trap: Proving Your Worth Over and Over

Marcus grew up the eldest of three, with a highly critical mother and an absent father. Marcus’s mother frequently told him or implied that he was too stupid to take care of himself – that he would be nothing without her. She programmed him to believe that she was his only source of love and safety, but that she wouldn’t give him the love he so desperately needed until he proved himself worthy of it by doing things “right”. She taught him to be confused between love and approval, and to be constantly trying to control getting love and...

Read More

Why Your Child Steals

If your child is stealing, then you are probably extremely worried about it. You also may be wondering what exactly is the best way to handle the problem. In this article we will discuss the reasons why children steal and what you should do to help your child with this problem. Preschool children do not steal. Until a child reaches the age of four or five he does not have a well-developed concept of ownership. As a result, he cannot understand that taking things that don’t belong to him is wrong. A preschooler is too young to understand the concept of stealing. Elementary school children do understand the concept of possession. A child in elementary school steals because he sees something that he wants and he lacks the self- control to hold himself back. A child this age knows that stealing is wrong. Since the child knows what he did was inappropriate this is the age where you can begin to give discipline for stealing. Preteens or teens steal for the thrill of it. They are also highly influenced by peer pressure and they fall into a crowd that steals for fun, they will steal too. Preteens or teens may steal to fill an emotional void, or to gain a sense of control. Whatever the age of your child and whatever the reason your child is stealing, you as...

Read More

ADHD: Disorder or Difference?

The word “disorder” conjures up images of illness, disease and serious disabilities.  All parents want to see their child as the smartest, most capable and best liked boy or girl on the block.  So why would they want to have a label attached to them that often conveys just the opposite–such as slow learner, under-achiever or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder? What a difference one word can make.  Suppose we changed the last D in ADHD from “disorder” to “difference.”  We could then say that a child with ADHD has some significant differences in his cognitive ability, emotional sensitivity and...

Read More

I Just Want to be Understood

“Seek first to understand and then to be understood.” – Stephen Covey How often have you heard yourself say: “I just want someone to understand me.” “I just want to be heard.” “I feel invisible.” “I just want to be seen.” I know what it feels like to not be understood, heard, or seen, as I spent most of the first 45 years of my life feeling invisible. It feels terrible. By that time I had learned to do what Stephen Covey recommends. I was very good at understanding others, but I still didn’t feel understood by them. It...

Read More

The Art of Visualization

What is it in one’s spirit that enables them to break the cycle of a dysfunctional pattern of living and choose to live a healthy life? Recently I was asked that question by a gentleman in my community. Each time I visited his vitamin store he insisted I talk about my healing. “What is it within your psychology Kay that gave you the strength to stop your codependency and get well? I’ve lectured for many years on addictions and in my experience only a handful of people in an audience of several hundred were willing to see the truth, quit denying and begin recovery.” At first I gave him pat answers, “I was sick and tired of being sick and tired or I wanted a better life.” He would say, “No, go deeper. All those folks who were in my seminars wanted a better life but so few seemed to be able to change their unhealthy way of being. How did you do it?” I’ve spent years working on myself in Al-Anon, therapy and A.C.A. groups. I have known for some time that my health is a gift from God and I have never taken it for granted. But truthfully I had never thought about exactly what inspired me to get well. I’ve lost many loved ones to death from alcoholism and drug abuse. Since I am the lone...

Read More

Paid Advertisement

Sign Up For Our Newsletter!



Paid Advertisement

Pin It on Pinterest