PAID ADVERTISEMENT

Month: August 2009

Anger Power

Does anger have power? Are you being powerful when you are angry? The answers to these questions depend on what you mean by power. Certainly you can intimidate many people with your anger – especially children or others who are physically weaker than you, or people who are terrified of disapproval and rejection. Anger – other than the outrage from the loving adult that leads to taking action against injustice – is a form of control. When you succeed in making others afraid of you, it often it works to get them to do what you want. But it...

Read More

Hypnosis: Sunbathing For Your Soul

If you have never thought of hypnosis as soul food then it’s time to step back and see it from a different angle. Most people who know a little bit about this art appreciate that it is a natural state, a state of relaxation, and that it allows access to the inner workings of your mind, and thereby enables powerful and positive change; Change in terms of relief from tension or conflict, and also in terms of opening up a greater ability to succeed. All of this is food for the soul. Science shows us that as one relaxes...

Read More

Relationships: Cheating

“Why would my boyfriend cheat on me?” “I’m pretty sure my wife is cheating on me. I want to know why.” “I know that my husband has been cheating on me for years. I don’t get why he does this.” Why do people cheat on their partners? Why do others have affairs that their partners know about? Here are some of the reasons for cheating that I have encountered in my many years of counseling. Ed has been cheating on his wife for years. Ed is addicted to the thrill of conquest. It is not actually the sex he...

Read More

Giving Up: Have You Given Up on Yourself?

“I feel like giving up,” Emma told me in our first phone session. “I’ve worked and worked on myself and I’m still miserable. I’ve had years of therapy and I still feel unbearably depressed. Nothing is working.” “It sounds to me like you are abandoning yourself.” “What do you mean? I take good care of myself. I eat well, exercise daily, work hard and take care of finances – in fact I’m doing really well financially – and I pamper myself. I get massages, get my nails done, and buy beautiful clothes. I have a nice house, a caring husband, and two wonderful children. I DO take care of myself, which is why I feel like giving up. I don’t get why you are telling me that I’m abandoning myself.” “What are you feeling right now?” “Miserable and angry at you for not understanding.” “Are you willing to take responsibility for being the cause of your anger and misery?” “What do you mean?” “Are you willing to know that you are the cause of your misery and anger and to learn what you are doing to cause it?” “Okay, but I don’t know what to do.” “Emma, do you have any kind of spiritual connection?” “No, I don’t believe in God.” “I’d like you to imagine your own higher self – an older, wiser version of you. Are you...

Read More

Dating Tips For Single Parents

For many single parents casual dating is frustrating and annoying. Looking for a new partner however, can be downright frightening. In fact many single parents who are gun shy after divorce go in one of two directions. They either convince themselves they are better off not going beyond getting their feet wet at best or they deny and minimize their fears and make reckless plunges. Why you may ask? Well, the chronically painful realities of divorce that involve children may be likened to having a chronic and debilitating illness like arthritis. Instead of periodic flare ups of painful inflammation...

Read More

Paid Advertisement

Sign Up For Our Newsletter!



Paid Advertisement

Pin It on Pinterest