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“If I could define enlightenment briefly I would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer
As simple as this definition seems to be, how often do you quietly accept what is? Instead, what do you say or do?
You might want to take a moment to see what else you do instead of accepting what is.
Why is This so Hard?
If you fully accepted the reality of how things are or who a person is, then what? What would you have to face and what actions would you need to take if you fully accepted reality?
This is what makes acceptance so hard. When you accept reality 100%, and you don’t like it, then you have to decide what actions you need to take, and these actions may be challenging. For example:
relationships: If you accept that your partner isn’t going to stop:
What if these behaviors are going to continue no matter how much they hurt you or how angry you get; then what? If you accept that what your partner is doing that is painful to you is more important to him or her than you are, can you accept this, or will you need to leave the relationship? Is it easier to think you can get him or her to stop, rather than accepting your lack of control?
We often kid ourselves into thinking someone is going to change, rather than accept reality, because accepting reality might mean that we have to take an action that is difficult.
Work: If you accept that conditions at your work are not going to change, then what?
Life’s other challenges: If you accept that life is going to keep happening and that some of it is going to be very hard, then what?
When we fully accept what is, then we are free to make loving decisions and take loving action in our own behalf. Accepting what is releases us from trying to control the things we cannot control and opens the door to controlling what we can – ourselves.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process – featured on Oprah. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Click here for a FREE Inner Bonding Course, and visit our website at www.innerbonding.com for more articles and help. Phone Sessions Available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!