There’s Too Much To Do

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“There’s too much to do. You’ll never get it all done.” My wounded self was harping on me about not having enough time.

It’s true that my life is very busy. But every time my wounded self told me that there is too much to do and that I will never get it all done, my body got tense. And, as I well know, tension indicates that I’m telling myself a lie. But what was the lie? There WAS too much to do, and there WASN’T enough time to get it all done.

So I went to my Guidance, asking for the truth and what to do about this, and this is what she said to me: You are forgetting what is important here. The only thing that is important is your thoughts and your resulting frequency. When you allow your wounded self to tell you that you don’t have enough time, then we (Spirit) comply. “Okay,” we say, and we make sure that you never have enough time. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy – the more you say it, the more it is true.”

“So are you saying that it’s not necessarily true?” I asked her. “Then what is true?”

It is true as long as this is what you believe. And as long as this is what you believe, you will feel tense, which lowers your frequency and makes it impossible for us to help you manifest what you need to get everything done. You slow yourself down by being tense about time. So it is not a thought that is in your highest good. It is a thought that is out of alignment with your true Self, which wants to stay in a high frequency. What thought would make you feel relaxed?”

“Well, of course the thought that there is always enough time. But I’ve tried this and it works for the moment and then I get caught up in the time crunch again.”

That’s because, as I said, you are focusing on the wrong thing. You are focusing on time and getting things done, rather than on what is vitally important, which is keeping your frequency high. You know that being tense about anything lowers your frequency and prevents us from co-creating with you. You need to stay focused on thinking whatever thoughts you need to think to keep your frequency high and you will see that time will be fine.

“Really? You mean I will have enough time if I stop thinking about not having enough time and instead just think the thoughts that keep my frequency high?”

Yes, really! And you know from much experience that the thoughts that keep your frequency high are thoughts of heart-felt gratitude. You KNOW how to do this – you just forget when you have a lot to do.

“Thanks! I’m going to just focus on gratitude, not on time and all that I have to do, and see what happens.”

My Guidance is so amazing! For some reason, it had not occurred to me, when I knew that I had tons to do, to focus on gratitude and keeping my frequency high rather than on all that I had to do.

And, of course, she is right. Since that conversation with her, I’ve been doing exactly that, and the amazing thing is that time seems to have expanded. Suddenly I’m either getting more done in less time, or I seem to have more time to get things done. I feel joyful all day and by the end of the day, I’m amazed at how great I feel! Tired, of course, but relaxed and peaceful and joyful.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process – featured on Oprah. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Click here for a FREE Inner Bonding course: and visit our website at for more articles and help. Phone Sessions Available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Dr. Margaret Paul is the author/co-author of numerous best-selling books, including: Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You? Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?…The Workbook Healing Your Aloneness The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook Inner Bonding Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids? Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, public speaker, seminar leader, consultant, facilitator, and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars for over 42 years. Dr. Paul’s books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into many languages. After practicing traditional psychotherapy for 17 years, Margaret was discouraged by the results – both for her clients and herself. She had spent years trying to heal from her own dysfunctional and abusive background, but found herself still suffering with anxiety and relationship problems. She started to seek a process that works fast, deep, creates permanent change, loving relationships, inner peace, and joy. In 1984, she met and became friends with Dr. Erika Chopich, who had half the Inner Bonding® process, and Margaret had the other half! They have been evolving this incredibly powerful healing process for the last 26 years. Margaret works with individuals and couples throughout the world – on the phone, in workshops and 5-Day Intensives, and with members of Inner Bonding Village at She is able to access spiritual Guidance during her sessions, which enables her to work with people wherever they are in the world. Dr. Margaret has just completed a 12 year project call SelfQuest®, which is a transformational self-healing/conflict resolution software program. SelfQuest® is being donated to prisons and schools and sold to individuals, families, and businesses. You can read about SelfQuest® and see a short video of it at In her spare time, Margaret loves to paint, make pottery, take photos, watch birds, read, ride and play with her horses, and spend time with her children and grandchildren.

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