The Power of Positive Thinking – Does it Work to Manifest?

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I was recently at home of a friend’s daughter and she had affirmations taped on the walls everywhere.

“Are these helpful to you?” I asked.

“Not really,” she answered. “I do them all the time but they don’t seem to be doing anything. I’ve read about the law of attraction – that like attracts like – and I’m trying to just think positive thoughts. I wonder why it isn’t working? Maybe the law of attraction isn’t real.”

Knowing of the work I do, she was interested in my opinion of this. “What do you think about the law of attraction?” she asked.

“The problem is that most affirmations are stated from the conscious level of our mind. But there is another level, a subconscious level, that is also thinking thoughts, and these thoughts might be the complete opposite of the affirmation.”

“But how do you know when you are thinking subconscious thoughts if they are subconscious?”

“We know by our feelings. Our feelings respond to our subconscious thoughts. If you are thinking something negative, you will feel anxious, scared, angry, stressed, or depressed. Your feelings are letting you know that you are thinking and behaving in ways that are counter to what you are actually affirming.”

“But I thought that if I ignored my negative feelings and just focused on positive thinking, I would start to feel better and get more of what I want.”

“No, it doesn’t work that way. It is what we think about with emotion that has the power to manifest. Thoughts without any emotion have no power. It is the emotion behind it that gives the thought power. Do you have any emotion when you are saying affirmations?”

“No, I just say them.”

“That’s why they aren’t working. There is no energy to propel the thought, no true investment in it. If, for example, you are saying this affirmation that is on your refrigerator, “My relationship is loving and harmonious,” but consciously you are trying to control your partner into being more affectionate and you feel resentful at the lack of affection, the negative intent prevails. This is why it is so important to pay attention to your feelings, which is the first step of the Inner Bonding process. The moment you are aware of feeling anxious or resentful or any other negative feelings, you can then notice what you are telling yourself and how you are behaving that is causing the distressing feeling. It is only by attending to your thoughts and feelings in this way that you can make the subconscious conscious enough to be able to choose thoughts that create joy and excitement rather than thoughts that create distress.”

“Oh, this makes so much sense! Are you saying that it’s not that there is anything wrong with affirmations, but that when we are also thinking something negative that creates negative emotions, this is actually what we are manifesting?”

“Yes, that’s exactly what I’m saying. So rather than ignoring your feelings or numbing them out with various addictions, it is vitally important to notice your feelings, as they are alerting you to whether or not your subconscious thoughts are positive or negative. You manifest when you think thoughts that move your heart and soul with a sense of passion and purpose. These thoughts are always thoughts that are about loving yourself and others, never thoughts about controlling others or outcomes.”

“I’m so glad I spoke with you! I’m definitely going to practice noticing my feelings and the thoughts that create them.”

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Learn Inner Bonding now! Click here for a FREE Inner Bonding Course, and visit our website at www.innerbonding.com for more articles and help. Phone Sessions Available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Dr. Margaret Paul is the author/co-author of numerous best-selling books, including: Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You? Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?…The Workbook Healing Your Aloneness The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook Inner Bonding Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids? Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, public speaker, seminar leader, consultant, facilitator, and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars for over 42 years. Dr. Paul’s books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into many languages. After practicing traditional psychotherapy for 17 years, Margaret was discouraged by the results – both for her clients and herself. She had spent years trying to heal from her own dysfunctional and abusive background, but found herself still suffering with anxiety and relationship problems. She started to seek a process that works fast, deep, creates permanent change, loving relationships, inner peace, and joy. In 1984, she met and became friends with Dr. Erika Chopich, who had half the Inner Bonding® process, and Margaret had the other half! They have been evolving this incredibly powerful healing process for the last 26 years. Margaret works with individuals and couples throughout the world – on the phone, in workshops and 5-Day Intensives, and with members of Inner Bonding Village at http://www.innerbonding.com. She is able to access spiritual Guidance during her sessions, which enables her to work with people wherever they are in the world. Dr. Margaret has just completed a 12 year project call SelfQuest®, which is a transformational self-healing/conflict resolution software program. SelfQuest® is being donated to prisons and schools and sold to individuals, families, and businesses. You can read about SelfQuest® and see a short video of it at http://selfquest.com. In her spare time, Margaret loves to paint, make pottery, take photos, watch birds, read, ride and play with her horses, and spend time with her children and grandchildren.

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