- Psychological Issues
Here is what we can all do to help keep our children “violence-free”
Parents and caregivers are vital to the healthy development and growth of children. We all know this, but what can we do better to enrich our children? Helping children learn more about themselves and their environment can be a key step in preventing school and youth violence. Parents want children to be safe, and children want to feel and be safe.
The following information will be both helpful to you as a parent and caregiver, as well as to your children. So take time to read and make time to share this with your children. Violence prevention begins with YOU. Remember to make time to listen, take time to talk…these can be precious moments.
Show love and concern
Every day, tell your child you love him/her.
Show affection daily with a hug, a kiss, and/or a touch.
Make time for special family fun activities.
Meet your child’s friends to ensure he/she has positive influences.
Understand – don’t take a stand
Children who don’t know how to control their anger are more likely to fight. Teach children how to calm down and talk over their problems. Tips for keeping cool and solving a problem:
Communication Is a two-way street
Children who have good communication with their parents are more likely to ask for their advice than turn to peers. When talking to your child, always remember to:
Find out what it means to me
Many youth fight because they feel disregarded and, as a result, feel angry, humiliated, or embarrassed. To stay violence-free, respect means:
How to get your way without fighting:
Prevent your child from becoming a VICTIM:
Prevent your child from becoming a BULLY:
Many youth join gangs looking for affection. Gangs only look out for their own interests and forget about yours. Gangs are violent…they intimidate, hurt, and kill people. Gangs lead to self-destruction.
The presence of guns can turn conflicts into violent confrontations resulting in serious injury or death. Guns are more likely to kill a friend or family member (unintentionally or through suicide) than an enemy. Parents-don’t own a gun; but if you do, store itunloaded and uncocked in a locked place. Children should be taught not to touch or play with firearms.
Children who have seen violence are more likely to become involved in violence as victims or perpetrators. You can:
Don’t insult, shout, walk out or away…SHOW RESPECT.
Don’t boss, preach, judge, or criticize…SHOW RESPECT.
Spend more than 15 minutes each day together listening and talking.
Don’t have outside interruptions.
Don’t blame or try to defend anyone.
DO MAKE one-on-one time SPECIAL.
Warm family relationships protect children FROM violence and many other risky behaviors. Be aware that everything you do, your children see and do. Talk to them and, most important, listen to them. Spend valuable time with them that includes fun activities. Find out who their friends are and if they are a positive influence. Find out where they hang out and make sure it’s safe. Let them know you disapprove of fighting. Keep your children “drug and violence-free.”