- Psychological Issues
grief is the normal response of sorrow, emotion, and confusion that comes from losing someone or something important to you. It is a natural part of life. grief is a typical reaction to death, divorce, job loss, a move away from family and friends, or loss of good health due to illness.
Just after a death or loss, you may feel empty and numb, as if you are in shock. You may notice physical changes such as trembling, nausea, trouble breathing, muscle weakness, dry mouth, or trouble sleeping and eating.
You may become angry—at a situation, a particular person, or just angry in general. Almost everyone in grief also experiences guilt. Guilt is often expressed as “I could have, I should have, and I wish I would have” statements.
People in grief may have strange dreams or nightmares, be absent-minded, withdraw socially, or lack the desire to return to work. While these feelings and behaviors are normal during grief, they will pass.
Grief lasts as long as it takes you to accept and learn to live with your loss. For some people, grief lasts a few months. For others, grieving may take years.
The length of time spent grieving is different for each person. There are many reasons for the differences, including personality, health, coping style, culture, family background, and life experiences. The time spent grieving also depends on your relationship with the person lost and how prepared you were for the loss.
Depression is more than a feeling of grief after losing someone or something you love. Clinical depression is a whole body disorder. It can take over the way you think and feel. Symptoms of depression include:
Every person who experiences a death or other loss must complete a four-step grieving process:
The grieving process is over only when a person completes the four steps.
If you recently experienced a death or other loss, feelings of grief are part of a normal reaction. But if these feelings persist with no lifting mood, ask for help.
Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA)
730 N. Franklin Street, Suite 501
Chicago, IL 60610-7224
National Alliance on mental illness (NAMI)
Colonial Place Three 2107 Wilson Blvd., Suite 300
Arlington, VA 22201-3042
Toll-free helpline: 800-950-NAMI (950-6264)
National Institute of mental health (NIMH)
Public Information and Communications Branch
6001 Executive Boulevard, Suite 8184,
MSC 9663 Bethesda, MD 20892-9663
The following list of organizations and Web sites provides information and support for coping with grief:
The Compassionate Friends (national office)
P.O. Box 3696 Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696
Toll Free 877-969-0010
A national, self-help support organization for those grieving the loss of a child or sibling.
Bethesda Professional Building
4360 Cooper Road, Suite 101
Cincinnati, OH 45242
513-745-0111 (M – F 9:30 am – 4:30 pm EST)
Grief information, resources, and support for grieving children and their families.
RENEW: Center for Personal recovery
P.O. Box 125
Berea, KY 40403
A grief counseling center for individuals and families that are experiencing loss, with a specialty in grief recovery counseling for traumatic deaths.
A Web site that provides information and resources related to death, dying, bereavement, and major emotional and physical losses.
Growth House, Inc.
A source of quality information and resources on death and dying issues.