- Psychological Issues
by Dr Arlene K Unger, PhD, Cert. Employee Assistance Prof., Wellness/Executive Coach
Encounters with hypercritical and aggressive bosses that are never satisfied, can make the work you could love seem unfulfilling and tedious. Then again, maybe YOU really ARE the problem! Does your “Boss Bully” have just cause, but inappropriate methods? Or does s/he treat most everyone with contempt? Assuming the “Boss Bully” really is a bully, what can be done about it?
Often, as companies are forced to streamline, the staff gets leaner, the workloads get bigger, and bosses get meaner. Vacation and sick time, deadlines and workloads, and performance reviews seem to get more and more restrictive.
The truth is that these “Boss Bullies” often live under the gun and face similar pressures from their own bosses; they have a way of transferring their own pressure to others … the Chain of Pain may help ease their burden, but it is ultimately neither good for themselves, their employees or their organization.
Here is a list of some other Boss bullying tactics:
I have, over the years, realized that employees can be more actively involved in making their job less stressful and more satisfying despite Boss Bullies. I have come to realize that employees can alleviate much of their own stress and to be able to work more effectively in their team.
Here are some ideas to deal with Boss Bullies:
In this recession most employees feel like they are wearing handcuffs … but these are not the golden handcuffs of past few decades. Many employees feel trapped because of they absolutely need to keep their jobs.
Try to be a bit objective and detached about your situation. Panic will not help you! Be patient and make some logical tradeoffs. Weigh ALL the factors in a fair and detached manner. For example, is it better to accept some abuse or be unemployed? You have to balance your overall happiness and mental wellbeing against paying the bills, losing your spouse or house, etc.. Everyone’s personal reality is a bit different, so carefully plan and take charge of your future. If you have a particularly difficult situation, a professional counselor or coach may be of great help to you in sorting out your priorities.