- Psychological Issues
When I get angry, I blow up so fast that I don’t have time to stop and think or ask for God’s wisdom. I know all of these things would help, but by the time I think of it I’ve already done the damage. What can I do to help get control of my temper?
Dear Friend; It seems to me that anger results from a combination of sources: low self-worth, recurring patterns, disappointments, revenge, spiritual warfare, depression, sin and/or selfishness, inability to communicate assertively, too much stress and other emotional or relationship problems. anger immediately rears It’s ugly head within 1-3 seconds of a provoking incident. You need to learn how to prevent such an overpowering emotional response & how to respond in healthy ways to the triggering events. Some people hold their anger inside and then, blow-up later on at a small trigger. I recommend taking the following steps:
Surrendering to the God is the key throughout the day in prayer and memorizing scripture to renew your mind and prepare against this enemy of anger and rage. The Holy Spirit will give you power to demonstrate gentleness, self-control, love and peace – the opposite reaction to anger and rage. Keeping in touch with God will help you react in humility to events and people who trigger your anger. You will also have faith that God will protect you and provide for your needs and not respond so angrily when people threaten your needs, rights or relationships. If you would like to know more about how to have a personal relationship with God, then read the article I have written on faith. Faith is the key to keeping your anger under God’s control and responding righteously. The Lord gets angry (as we read in many scriptures) but it is always righteous.
Anger can be managed and expressed in healthy ways when God has control of your life.
You need to get to the root of the problem you are having with your temper. It may be partly physiological (talk with your doctor about the need for medication), emotional, psychological and maybe due to crises, stress or previous loss or trauma. There are many causes and a counselor can help you explore these causes and better ways to cope with your thoughts, symptoms and feelings.
Take a step now towards professional mental health counseling/treatment and towards God. Commit to making at least 3 or 4 of changes in your life as suggested above and Order the What’s Good About Anger? online, home-study anger management courses, book and certificates.
Lynette J. Hoy, is a marriage and family counselor, speaker, writer and the Chicagoland Chair of Community and Business women for Christ. Her newly released book, What’s Good About Anger? can be ordered online at: www.whatsgoodaboutanger.com or Amazon.com. Visit Mrs. Hoy’s websites: www.hoyweb.com, www.counselcareconnection.org, www.cbwc.net, www.lifecareweb.com.