Adult Children of Alcoholics

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Adults who were raised in homes organized around chemical dependency or physical abuse may display certain behavior characteristics. These behaviors may be the tip of the ice berg of an underlying emotional or behavioral disorder that is damaging to the emotional and spiritual well-being of the individual. The following list is intended to help you identify the ways in which you may have been affected by familial alcoholism or physical or sexual abuse.

We have feelings of low self-esteem that cause us to judge ourselves and others without mercy. We cover up or compensate by trying to be perfect, take responsibility for others, attempt to control the outcome of unpredictable events, get angry when things don’t go our way, or gossip instead of confronting an issue. For example:

  • I find myself constantly finding fault with people.
  • I am hard myself, often to the point of self-hatred.
  • I make myself important to others by doing for them because I don’t believe that people could like me for me.
  • I continually think about maintaining the upper hand in any relationship.

We tend to isolate ourselves and to feel uneasy around other people, especially authority figures. For examples:

  • I feel uncomfortable when people focus on me.
  • I lose my voice when I have to stand up for myself.I isolate myself rather than getting involved with groups of people.

We are approval seekers and will do anything to make people like us. We are extremely loyal even in the face of evidence that suggests loyalty is undeserved. For example:

  • I worry about what others are thinking and saying about me.
  • My fear of rejection keeps from standing up for myself.
  • It’s hard for me to admit that I came from a troubled home.

We are intimidated by angry people and personal criticism. This causes us to feel anxious and overly sensitive. For example:

  • I say what I think what other people want me to say rather than what I truly feel.
  • I avoid conflict at all costs.
  • I panic at the thought of somebody finding a mistake with me or my work.

We habitually choose to have relationships with emotionally unavailable people with addictive personalities. We are less attracted to healthy, caring people. For example:

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